Editorial Reviews
From Publishers Weekly
Former director of women's programs at UC Berkeley, Page now conducts singles workshops for both sexes. Men and women who want permanent partners will benefit from her "10 strategies that will change your love life forever," as set forth in this engaging guide. The advice is illustrated by case histories of Page's clients, whose progress toward emotional fulfillment is described in their own words. Also detailed are stories of failed relationships and their causes. Each chapter contains an experiment designed to teach readers why they may be losing at love by clinging to partners who won't commit themselves; rejecting or showing ambivalence to promising mates, etc. The primary lesson to be gleaned here is that choosing a mate for life means knowing yourself first and recognizing a person with similar standards; not settling for less. An appendix gives tips on running a singles support group. 50,000 first printing; $50,000 ad/promo; first serial to Cosmopolitan, Self and Glamour; Literary Guild and Doubleday Book Club alternates.
Copyright 1988 Reed Business Information, Inc. --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.
Behold a wonder - a romantic self-help book that is intelligent, upbeat, practical, useful, winning, and even wise, by a feminist former director of women's programs at U.C. Berkeley and a leader of singles workshops. Page's program for those she calls "involuntary singles" is simple. She advises 1) that you discover whether you want to be single, and, if not, deal with whatever ambivalence you subconsciously feel about giving up freedom for love, taking time out from your career, etc.; 2) forget dire statistics and discouraging reports; 3) set yourself specific, businesslike tasks for meeting new people likely to please you; 4) keep your standards very high, and be ruthless in eliminating potential partners who don't meet them; 5) learn how to eliminate also-rans, including old lovers to whom you can't quite bring yourself (or can't bring them) to make a commitment; 6) stop being satisfied with "pseudo-intimacy," that contemporary singles' time-saving snake oil; 7) avoid "commitmentphobes," even when it means asking direct (and embarrassing) questions; 8) increase your self-esteem to avoid wanting to make someone inappropriate love you; 9) learn to say "yes" to Mr. or Ms. Right; 10) work on your flaws and foibles, not in order to earn love but so that you can root out behavior counterproductive to your vision of the shared good life. What all this boils down to is the power of positive thinking in a single-minded pursuit of love and intimacy; but what makes it helpful and at times inspiring is an acknowledgement that romance takes place (or doesn't) in a larger context that includes "a social preoccupation with money and business success" that competes, to some degree, with activities and qualities necessary for love, and a truly upbeat conviction that love is worth the fuss. A self-help book - with convincing case studies, useful exercises, guides, appendices - that doesn't condescend to its readers as walking examples of pathology. First-rate of its kind. (Kirkus Reviews) --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.
Product Description
Susan Page’s bestselling relationship book has been translated into 18 languages, is being read in more than 25 countries, and its mass-market edition has sold more than 158,000 copies. At the heart of this book are Page’s famed 10 strategies for readers to better self-understanding and ultimately a fulfilling relationship. Filled with revealing anecdotes, case studies, and quizzes, the book’s down-to- earth guidance will appeal to everyone who devoured books like Mars and Venus on a Date and Getting the Love You Want, and anyone who wants a fulfilling intimate relationship.
"Behold a wonder–a romantic self-help book that is intelligent, upbeat, practical, useful, winning, and even wise." –Kirkus Reviews
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Susan Page?s bestselling relationship book has been translated into 18 languages, is being read in more than 25 countries, and its mass-market edition has sold more than 158,000 copies. At the heart of this book are Page?s famed 10 strategies for readers to better self-understanding and ultimately a fulfilling relationship. Filled with revealing anecdotes, case studies, and quizzes, the book?s down-to- earth guidance will appeal to everyone who devoured books like Mars and Venus on a Date and Getting the Love You Want, and anyone who wants a fulfilling intimate relationship.
"Behold a wonder?a romantic self-help book that is intelligent, upbeat, practical, useful, winning, and even wise." ?Kirkus Reviews
From the Trade Paperback edition. --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.
About the Author
Susan Page, who holds a Master’s of Divinity degree, founded and directed the first university-based human sexuality program at the University of California at Berkeley. Since 1980 she has devoted herself full-time to writing about relationships and working with both couples and singles. She is the author of three other books, including the recently published follow-up If We’re So In Love, Why Aren’t We Happy? Susan Page lives in Berkeley, California.
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